Give It What You Can

A Different Approach To Reaching Your Goals

Written by a human, for humans, always.

How much is needed for you to attain your goals?

It might be a little...

It might be a tremendous amount...

In either case, the likely answer is more than you can give in any singular moment.

Most goals require time to attain.

How much time varies...

But time nevertheless.

One of the things that I see from many people when it comes to attaining goals...

And which I struggle with myself from time to time...

Is feeling like you have enough to give in any single moment.

Even if you tried...

Would it be enough?

This question and line of thinking...

Is actually a gigantic problem and flaw in our mindset.

Here’s a counter-question to consider...

What does “enough” even mean?

See...

There is a fundamental error when we are considering whether we have “enough”...

And that error is known as all-or-nothing thinking.

See...

“Enough” is a term that simply implies that there is a border...

And if we can reach beyond that border, we act...

And if we cannot, then we will not act.

We either put all of ourselves into it at that moment...

Or none of ourselves...

Based on whether we believe, in the moment, whether we can reach “enough”.

There are multiple problems with that when it comes to reaching our goals.

First...

Is that for most people, “enough” is a nebulous border...

One which shifts and changes depending on a variety of factors...

Most of which are subjective...

Especially in the moment we are asking the question.

What does this mean?

That we will be more likely to make a decision based on factors that may or may not be relevant in the long term...

And based purely on the average of human behavior...

Means that we will choose not to take action.

When that border of “enough” has the ability to shift...

It usually shifts in favor of “not” moving toward our goals.

That is the simple reality that most people do not realize.

However, there are other factors we fail to consider.

For instance...

Habits.

What happens when we make a decision, one way or another?

The next time we come to a similar decision, we are more likely to make the same decision.

This is simply how the body is designed.

Our bodies will look for paths that “worked” in the past and optimize communication pathways to continue to utilize that same strategy.

So one day we choose not to move forward...

Then another day...

And another...

Then suddenly we look back and wonder how we strayed so far from our goals.

Another factor we fail to consider...

Is the Flow State.

We may not feel like we have “enough” at this very moment...

But that is based on a limited perspective of what we believe is possible...

Usually when we feel our worst.

But...

Often by beginning to do something...

We can unlock a flow state...

Which makes us vastly more capable than we thought possible before the flow state.

What may have seemed nearly impossible before...

Suddenly becomes inevitable...

Often exceeding what we believed we could do.

When I started this article...

I was thinking that I would struggle to hit my minimum...

But now I have exceeded 500 words, and I am not yet at the end of what there is to say.

The point is...

We, as humans, are usually pretty terrible at judging what we are capable of accomplishing in the moment...

And when we make a decision in the moment based on a nebulous border that we perceive as being further than it likely is in reality...

We almost always will choose against moving toward our goals...

And the most likely scenario...

Is that we will struggle or never actually attain the end goal...

Because we will continuously fail to do “enough” to ever get there.

So what can we do?

Take a different approach.

Instead of questioning whether you have “enough” to give...

Make a decision to simply give whatever you are able to in that moment.

Do not judge yourself.

Do not even worry about how much is likely...

Because, as was already mentioned, we are terrible at estimating that as humans.

Simply...

Start.

Begin.

Do something.

Even if it feels incredibly tiny.

Even if you question whether it really is going to move the needle.

Just give it what you’re able to.

What you will discover...

Is that if you simply start...

You will often get further in that moment than you believed possible.

If you continue to give what you can...

You will begin to build a habit around moving toward your goal.

This will also develop your skills and abilities around what you are aiming toward...

Which will then help you move faster toward the goal.

Plus...

You never have to question whether or not you have enough or if you feel like it.

The decision is already made.

You stop wasting time and energy on debating whether you have “enough”...

And instead utilize that time and energy to actually make progress.

It becomes incredibly liberating when you stop asking yourself whether you have something in you or not...

And start just acting toward it...

Giving yourself more and more evidence that you indeed are capable of moving toward the goal...

Instead of continuing to accumulate evidence against yourself.

There is an incredible freedom that can be obtained when we stop doubting ourselves.

Our thoughts can often work against us...

But we can quickly silence those thoughts with proof and evidence of action.

All you need to do...

Is stop asking the question.

Just make a decision to begin taking action now.

No matter how much or little it feels like in that moment.

The amount is not what matters.

All that matters...

Is that you act.

Some days you may be able to give more...

Others, it will be less.

Either way you win...

Because you are giving what you can...

And continuing to make progress toward your goals.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Contribution Delusion

An Interesting Phenomenon In Today’s World

Written by a human, for humans, always.

This article may lean into some uncomfortable territory.

I’ll try to qualify what I am saying as often as I can catch.

But I might make everyone mad in the process.

Such is life and having an opinion.

I was reading an article that was discussing the idea of meritocracy...

Where people are rewarded based on their contribution.

You may love or hate the idea...

You may think it makes sense, or you may see flaws...

I’m not here to tell you what to believe...

And everything I’m about to say applies to everyone, not just one “side” of a system.

What the article was making an argument for is that meritocracy is essentially a myth...

That there are people who contribute who do not get rewarded...

And there are people who are rewarded who (at least appear) not to be contributing as much.

There might be both some level of truth and falsity to these ideas.

We are humans.

We make mistakes.

Sometimes we see things incorrectly and put value in poor places.

Some of that may contribute to the idea that meritocracy could be seen as a myth.

But that is not the point that I want to make.

What I really want to focus on...

Is an idea I’m calling the Contribution Delusion.

What is it?

It is the idea that most people...

Both who are recognized as having more success and those who are recognized as having less success...

Contribute far less than they believe they do.

I have met people in entry-level jobs who believed they contributed deeply to an organization’s success...

I’ve also met C-Suite executives who believed the same...

And I have found people on both extremes who, in reality...

Did little to nothing that actually contributed.

They “believed” that they were contributing at extremely deep, impressive, and important levels...

But it was all in their head.

They were delusional about how much they actually did...

How much impact they created...

As well as what their work actually accomplished.

They believed they deserved more...

But really they contributed little to nothing.

Why is it...

That so many people...

Believe that they contribute at such high levels in the world?

I think it is worth also considering...

What is contribution?

What does it really mean?

The answers to these may provide us with more insight that is important to understanding how we become so heated and argumentative around these ideas.

So, let’s start with this...

What is contribution really?

It is the concept of putting in something with the expectation of getting a result of some sort.

This is where I think we get our first insights into where we begin to have diversions in thoughts around what it means to contribute.

What is it you are contributing?

Is it hard labor?

Or intellectual ideas?

Perhaps it is financial risk?

Emotional labor?

These are all different forms of “contribution”...

And we have a tendency to value them differently.

Some people believe that ideas are more important.

Others might argue that more weight belongs to those doing the day-in-day-out.

There is also the idea of who has more responsibility and the stress that goes with that responsibility.

How do we weigh each of these?

Then how do we weigh them against each other?

It is a very complicated question that is going to differ depending on the context.

Something that we should begin to understand, though...

Is that different contributions need to attain certain results...

And that more contributions should correlate with more results.

To contribute more should mean getting a greater percentage of the overall results based on what is contributed...

At least in theory.

But there is also the idea of contribution toward the future.

Something may not have a high level of contributive results today...

But the expectation is that future results will be some degree higher than what is possible today.

This is often the promise (or lie, depending on context) of technology.

How do we weigh these against each other?

Theoretically, something that could attain significantly greater results in the future should be weighted highly...

But what if the possibility only exists based on what is being done today continuing to succeed?

It is difficult to weigh something in the future if what is here now is still absolutely necessary...

Not to mention that we, as humans, are often completely wrong about what we believe will contribute more greatly in the future...

Or how things might negatively contribute.

All of this to say...

What it means to contribute greatly is a complex question...

One without a solid answer we can rely on between different contexts.

This is at least the first part of why I believe so many people have the Contribution Delusion.

They weigh what they do at a vastly higher level than other forms of contribution.

They might actually work hard in their labor (not always, but we will assume for the sake of an example)...

But does their work actually contribute more than others on their team?

What about their efforts compared to other teams that contribute in different ways?

How about when we look at the responsibility expected in their position compared to other positions?

If it is physical labor, how does it compare to the intellectual labor?

If it is intellectual labor, how does it compare to the physical labor?

Does it only contribute to the present, having little to nothing to do with the future?

Or is it completely looking at the future, perhaps even at the expense of the present?

Does the physical labor outweigh the financial risk that others have taken?

Or do the financial risks outweigh the physical labor being done?

Depending on how you answer these questions...

Or completely ignore them...

May explain how some individuals believe they contribute at delusional levels.

But it is not the only place we see Contribution Delusion.

We can find at least two others we can narrow in on when we look at psychophysiology.

There is the dis-stress factor...

And the perspective factor.

Let’s start with the latter.

The perspective factor has to do with the information that is currently available to us.

What perspective of information is most easily accessible and most constantly available?

Our own perspective.

There is nothing inherently right or wrong about that; it is natural...

But it can create an unbalanced understanding around contribution.

When you mostly or only see your own perspective...

Without true insights from other perspectives...

Your idea of what contribution means can become incredibly distorted.

If you mix that with beliefs such as...

We are the heroes of our own stories...

Then we might just begin to see villains where none really exist...

And value our contributions as the “hero” more greatly than “villains”, “sidekicks”, and “extras”.

That narrow focus of perspective can easily lead to delusional beliefs around our contributions.

I have seen this in C-Suite executive leaders who believed that everyone around them failed to recognize their contributions and were working against them...

When the reality was that their decisions were creating a hostile workplace that caused everyone to fear them...

Negatively impacting and undermining all of their efforts.

They were delusionally believing they were contributing at high levels...

While the reality was that they were decimating everyone’s abilities to contribute.

Then we can add in the dis-stress factor.

When we experience high levels of dis-stress...

We can no longer see coherently or correctly.

We enter into a fight-or-flight state...

Where we begin to see everything around us as a potential threat.

This, inherently, distorts our perception of what occurs around us.

It might make the perspective problem even worse.

It could cause you to see others’ failures more frequently as a tactic to use against them, to prove you contribute more.

It could cause you to overemphasize how much your work is worth because, from your state of dis-stress, your efforts are essential to your survival...

Regardless of whether that is true or not.

This is also a very real problem because over 80% of the workforce is in a state of burnout...

Which is a psychophysiological state of chronic dis-stress.

What is worse about this particular problem of burnout...

Is that our productivity potential becomes capped at 5% or less...

And we can, and frequently do, go into negative productivity.

What does this mean?

You may believe that your efforts are actively contributing...

And you may believe that you are putting more into everything than you can physically accomplish...

But from a psychophysiological perspective, you may actually be accomplishing 95% less than you are capable of...

Or directly making everything worse...

Without realizing it.

This can be made even more difficult...

When the reason you are experiencing such extreme levels of chronic dis-stress may not be entirely your fault...

Or the fault of leaders within an organization.

All stress adds.

What that means is that “every” source of stress directly contributes to whether we enter into dis-stress...

And we cannot physically separate them, despite the dumb common phrase “leave your home problems at home”.

That just is not how reality works.

Maybe you shouldn’t “put” your home problems on your colleagues, but the stress from what happens in your life will impact your work...

As will the stress from your diet...

Or your finances...

And every other stress we each experience.

So we may be experiencing burnout at work, and it may not be caused by leaders...

Though, often leaders do make poor choices that negatively impact human psychophysiology, making the problem worse...

But it is directly destroying our productivity potential, and therefore hurting our contribution...

Making us physically less capable of contributing...

While simultaneously skewing our perspective of how much we believe we are contributing.

When we combine all of these factors...

There is a hard truth that we have to begin to come to terms with.

Most people contribute far less than they believe they do.

They contribute in far fewer ways than they think.

They discount ways they are not contributing or cannot contribute.

Their psychophysiology further creates conditions that distort reality even further.

Truly...

Most people, when you look at it...

Are not really contributing all that much...

And that is without even considering those who actively do not contribute or purposefully contribute negatively.

This brings us to another question...

How do we begin to contribute more?

Well...

We start in the psychophysiology...

Then we can begin to appreciate the greater context of how others contribute...

And from there we can seek to expand our contribution or create new opportunities to contribute further.

Of course, that is an extremely oversimplified account of how to do it...

But it is worth considering and looking more deeply into...

Because if you discover that you are contributing far less than is possible...

Imagine what you could suddenly accomplish if you actually contributed what you truly were capable of?

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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Taking Rest

The Path That Most Fail To Take In The Goal Of Success

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Today has been very eventful for me.

A bit of a journey with some unexpected twists and turns.

Nothing bad, thank the Lord.

I am tired though.

So now, I come to my computer after about 12 hours between driving and events...

With the goal to write an article.

For today though...

I plan to only hit my minimum.

Do what I require of my goals and purposes...

Then rest through the what is left of the evening.

This is a reminder, both to you and to myself, that in the goal of success...

We are still human.

There are real needs and limitations that we are beholden to from a psychophysiological standpoint.

We need rest.

It serves a variety of wonderful purposes.

Our bodies can de-escalate our levels of dis-stress.

Digestion and repair processes can be undertaken by the body.

If we allow our minds to stop focusing on certain challenges...

Those challenges will be sent to our subconscious mind...

Where the information available to us currently will be processed vastly faster than in the conscious mind...

As it has been described by others...

Our conscious is like trying to solve astrophysics on a sticky note, while our subconscious is like using a NASA supercomputer.

Let your subconscious do what it does best while you rest...

And when you are ready to get back into it, you will discover that you are further along with the original problem than you were previously.

Rest also allows us to tend to our other human needs...

Such as spending time with family and friends.

Seeking joy and creativity in other areas of life that are not as consequential.

Living.

I know how tempting it can be to chase success constantly.

I can tell you that the more you chase, the more it will elude you...

Because when you do so...

You end up working against your psychophysiology, which is always a losing battle.

People so often attempt to be super human, and end up failing as a result...

Because you cannot be “beyond human”.

You are human.

But...

Most people also completely fail to understand that being human is vastly more powerful and spectacular than they realize.

If you try to be super human, you will fail...

But if you instead seek to become hyper human...

Reaching toward the extremes of what is humanly possible within the frameworks of our human design....

Suddenly you discover that you are capable of so much more than you imagined...

With significantly less effort...

In more areas of your life.

Part of what is required to become hyper human...

As paradoxical as it may sound...

Is rest.

If you allow yourself to rest...

Truly rest...

You will discover that it opens up so much more than you realize.

We even have scientific research that goes to show and estimate how much more.

When we fail to rest, we eventually enter into burnout...

Where currently over 80% of the workforce lives in at different levels...

And in burnout, our Productivity Potential drops to 5% or less...

And can and regularly does go into Negative Productivity.

But when we are living at hyper human levels...

Including getting proper rest...

We can potentially attain 100% of our productivity potential...

Which is 20x or more we can accomplish...

Without even getting into the numbers around living at hyper human levels “with” others who are also doing so.

The point.

If you are not resting...

You really have no clue how little you are actually accomplishing...

And how much more you could do if you actually just rested.

So I encourage you...

Like I am about to do...

Get some rest.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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Are You Actually Growing?

Understanding When Learning Is Helping Or Harming On The Journey To Sageship

Written by a human, for humans, always.

I am a huge fan of personal development.

Not just because I enjoy it personally...

But because as I have studied human psychophysiology...

I understand that we, as humans, have an innate desire to grow and cultivate ourselves.

We are actually happier and live a better life when we do.

Indeed...

I’ve done a lot of programs over the years.

I have over 20 post-nominals that I have earned (i.e., DFM, DNM, etc.)...

Some of which have learning requirements to maintain...

More certifications than those...

And other courses that I’ve done over the years.

Now...

Does anyone “need” all of those to have a successful career?

Absolutely not.

In fact, you do not even need a single post-nominal in your name to gain tremendous success.

Many have.

Does everyone “need” to grow to have success in life?

Absolutely.

There are real legitimate questions that come up, though, that you have to take into consideration as you grow...

Are you actually growing?

Is all the learning you are doing helping you?

Or is all of your learning actually harming you?

You have to ask these questions...

Because there are individuals who have done many different degrees, courses, and certifications...

Similar to me...

But really never make any progress in their careers or life.

No matter how many different types of learning they do...

They never really get anywhere.

So what is it that gets in their way?

Why is it that some people with fewer learning experiences get further...

And some with significantly more never seem to actually grow in their life or career?

The answer has to do with what you do with what you learn.

See...

For many people...

They get degrees, certifications, and take courses because they feel that they are not enough...

There is a belief, conscious or subconscious, that maybe when they get the “next” thing...

That they will finally be enough.

So they take a course...

They get a certificate...

Go back to school for another degree...

But each time they still feel like they are not enough.

What is happening is that they are using education as a crutch to not change.

The result...

Is that they may never feel ready...

And they create a habit in their mindset and beliefs that repeats the same pattern of never being enough.

On the other hand...

Real growth requires action and application.

Learning it is not enough.

You need to live it.

Use it.

Either in your life, with clients, or with a team.

Then begin to understand it at levels that can only be understood by doing.

There is a reason that many people do not feel like they know enough...

Because you really only learn by doing.

Taking the courses and getting the degrees and certifications are a great place to start...

But the actual learning happens when you begin to live what you learn...

Only there will you find real growth.

If you are learning and not doing...

Then all of your education is actually hindering you...

You are not truly growing.

It is like learning how to throw a ball while your arm is kept in a cast.

You might know the theory and even have a detailed understanding of the physiological mechanics at play...

But you are not actually throwing the ball...

And as long as your arm is in a cast, you’ll never develop the muscles to be able to throw the ball in reality.

You’ll never feel ready because the feeling of being ready only happens after we get enough real doing in our lives.

Here is the thing, however...

When you begin doing...

You can actually begin to create an amazing effect by continuing to learn.

Why have I taken so many courses and gotten so many different degrees and certifications in my life?

Because I am adapting and discovering little differences, similarities, and connections that exist “between” different things.

I am not learning because I do not feel like I know enough in my life...

I am continuing to learn to attempt to piece together things that no one has ever done before.

I actively go through courses, frequently disagreeing with different teachers I have had...

Not because they are bad teachers or even that they are inherently “wrong”...

But because there are gaps that they have which I can fill in from what I have experienced...

Both in my life and with my clients.

There is almost always something that I still learn in every course, certification, and degree I pursue...

But much of it is fine-tuning and getting different perspectives as opposed to feeling like I am lacking.

Occasionally, I do different programs because I have a true lack of knowledge or experience...

However, I am sure to apply it as quickly as I’m able...

Then I further make it my own, informed by everything else that I know...

Until I begin to gain insights that were never taught to me in a classroom.

That is the real gap that most people have when it comes to learning...

They never make it their own.

They see themselves as purely a student...

When mastery requires you to be doing the craft...

And Sageship requires you to go further than others have to begin to understand what could never be taught.

Growth only happens in doing the work...

In reality, not in theory alone.

No course, certification, or degree provides you with mastery...

Only experience can do that.

Sageship is not something that can be obtained in a classroom...

It can only be discovered where no teacher has ever been before...

By understanding what there currently is to know...

Questioning it...

Doubting it...

Testing it...

Then moving beyond it all until you truly have insights that others do not.

Only in this way can your learning truly help you.

Only in this way can you truly grow in life.

Start growing.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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When Your Problem Is Your Body Working Correctly

Understanding The Complexity Of Human Psychophysiology

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Have you ever had a problem...

Where you are looking for what is going wrong...

But you simply cannot find anything that seems to be broken?

Everything appears to be going right...

But there is clearly a problem?

Have you ever then asked the question...

If the problem is that something is working correctly?

Let me give you an example.

I was speaking with a client who was telling me they were worried they had a serious health problem because they were waking up in the middle of the night.

They had tracked that they were regularly having a cortisol spike...

And they feared it was being caused by a medical condition that had not been diagnosed.

The first thing I did...

Was tell them to go get checked by their primary care physician...

Because I’m an ethical person and I am not that kind of doctor...

I do not diagnose people.

I also know...

That everything that happens has some sort of explanation.

So, after they confirmed they were going to see their primary care physician about it to be safe...

We also explored what things could potentially be causing my client to wake up in the middle of the night with an increase in their cortisol.

We considered some regular factors...

Overall stress levels in their work and life...

Their workout schedule...

Their nutrient intake and whether it was adequate...

Emotional considerations in their relationships with others...

Things like blue light and noise levels.

One thing seemed to be consistent...

Everything seemed to be working as it should.

No changes in their workouts or nutrition that would warrant the sudden change.

Relationships had been improving with others.

Stress had been decreasing significantly.

Nothing seemed to be wrong.

But then...

They mentioned something...

They had recently gotten a new pet who was waking them up in the middle of the night before...

But that pet had started to become accustomed to the new environment and was sleeping during the night.

I knew exactly what was happening...

And I asked my client whether the cortisol spikes matched when the pet had been waking them up in the middle of the night.

Yes.

Just like that, we knew that the problem was not something being wrong...

The problem was that their body was working correctly.

See...

This client’s body had begun to develop a habit.

The pet would need some sort of attention at a point in the night...

The body would spike cortisol to wake up the client...

This way, they would be able to attend to whatever the pet needed.

It happened enough...

That the body began to naturally time out the cortisol spike to prepare and be ready to take care of the pet.

It is the exact same thing that happens to parents.

A baby starts to cry...

The body pushes us to wake up to make sure the baby is safe...

And if the pattern is consistent enough...

A habit is formed, and the body will preemptively prepare to take care of the child...

Or in this case, the pet.

Everything was working perfectly...

Just not as expected.

It is still wise to check with a primary care physician...

Just to be safe...

But all signs indicated that the body was just doing what it was designed to do.

If the pet has started to fall asleep according to a regular schedule...

The body will begin to adjust accordingly.

Here is the important takeaway...

Sometimes the problems we experience...

Are not actually problems.

They are byproducts of how our bodies are naturally designed to work.

Nothing is broken...

There is nothing inherently wrong with us...

The only challenge is that so many people do not realize how they are designed.

That is both good news and bad news.

It is good that nothing is truly wrong...

But the bad news is that when you do not know that...

You may go looking for something to be wrong...

Creating new stressors...

Changing how you are living and taking care of yourself...

Which then could actually create a real problem over time.

Not to mention that some individuals within the Western Medical Establishment are more than happy to prescribe medications...

Even when they have not thoroughly studied the potential problems...

A side effect of being overworked and how they are trained to think and handle situations within the limited time they see patients (13 to 24 minutes on average).

What I am trying to say here...

Is that when you do not know how you are designed...

How you operate at your best...

How to determine when something is working improperly...

How different patterns work...

What different systems naturally do...

It is extremely likely that you are going to believe that the problem you are experiencing is being caused by something going wrong...

When your real challenge is that everything is going right...

You are just unaware of it.

How often do you think that people go trying to fix things that are not broken?

As I’ve come to learn more and more about human psychophysiology...

The answer is clear...

Very regularly, people attempt to fix things when nothing is broken.

The consequences...

Are becoming more and more severe.

In our quests to try to fix things...

We end up changing other things that are also not broken...

Which then causes them to break.

We are so quick as humans to assume that when things are not happening the way we imagine they should...

That it means that something is broken.

But we need to learn that is not always the case.

Sometimes things are not actually broken...

Sometimes things are working exactly as they were designed to work...

But we simply were not aware of the consequences of that.

What this means...

Is that we should become more interested in how things are designed to work...

So that we can determine whether things are actually broken and therefore need to be fixed...

Or...

If things are just working as they were meant to and we simply need to adjust as necessary to get the results we desire.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

P.S. - It can be Difficult to Figure Out How To Achieve…

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Are Your Emotions Really The Problem?

Other Things To Consider When You Feel Your Emotions Are Wrong

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Emotions.

We all have them.

Most of us struggle with them.

But the question that is worth asking...

Are your emotions really the problem?

Is it the emotions themselves that are the cause of our struggles?

Or...

Could there be other explanations?

The reality of it is...

The emotions themselves...

Are never the problem.

All emotions are one simple thing...

Messages.

They are messages that our bodies provide for us to indicate...

Something.

This brings up the question of “what” do our emotions indicate?

That is really the question we should be asking

There are a couple of things that you need to consider when you experience problems.

For instance...

Perhaps the problem is not the emotion itself...

But our relationship with the emotion.

A clear example of this comes from this question...

What negative behaviors do you experience?

Now, what you answer is an indicator of what emotions you have a bad relationship with.

Like I said...

All emotions are simply messages.

That is it.

Messages are not inherently “good”, “bad”, “positive”, or “negative”.

Emotions are not negative...

But we can have a negative relationship with an emotion...

Even emotions we generally consider “positive”.

Let me explain.

“Anger” is not inherently a positive or negative emotion.

If your relationship with anger leads to you punching or attacking others...

That is a negative relationship that you have with Anger.

Anger is not the problem...

Your relationship with anger is the problem.

People can experience what is sometimes called “Righteous Anger”...

Where their anger drives their behavior to achieve justice through good means...

Something that drives many lawyers.

That is a more positive relationship with anger.

Anger is not the problem.

In the other direction...

Sometimes people might feel joy and believe that they “do not deserve to feel that”.

Joy is not the problem...

Your relationship with joy is the problem.

What we need to begin to understand at this point is that the emotions we experience are only messages...

But we may need to work on our relationship with those emotions.

What else could the problem be?

You may laugh a bit at this...

But maybe the emotion is just a signal that you’re missing nutrients.

If you have ever claimed (or heard others claim) that they are “Hangry”...

They have learned that they experience anger (or extreme annoyance) when they are hungry.

Here’s the thing...

Being hangry is actually a bigger problem than just needing to eat.

People who claim they are hangry are experiencing an energy (Mg-ATP) generation problem.

They are not generating enough energy (Mg-ATP) to sustain their behavior...

And the body sends out a message indicating that energy stores are too low...

Then, anything that “gets in the way” of refilling those stores becomes perceived as a “potential threat” to your survival...

Hence, why you get angry and annoyed at others.

But there is often another problem people experience around nutrients...

The inability to create certain neurochemicals and hormones.

See...

All emotions are generated from different neurochemicals and hormones...

Which need nutrients to build them.

If you do not have the nutrients...

You cannot experience the emotions that require those nutrients.

So...

You may be locked out of experiencing certain emotions because you lack the nutrients required to experience them.

If you get the nutrients, you cannot guarantee that you will suddenly feel the emotions you want...

But without the nutrients, you can guarantee you’ll never feel the emotions you want.

We still have other things to consider, however.

The next thing to consider is our identities.

Yes, plural.

We have 10 categories of identities...

All of which have multiple identities within them.

How many of your identities do you know?

Here’s the thing...

Whether you know what those identities are or not...

Does not really matter to your emotions.

You may have subconscious identities...

Which then drive how you perceive different situations...

And those perceptions, true or not, may deeply influence how you experience life.

For instance...

If you subconsciously have an identity of “Loser”...

You may subconsciously look at every single bad thing that happens...

Which then becomes “proof” of why you are a “Loser”.

This may even be so far as to you dropping your writing utensil and making this claim about yourself.

Does dropping something make you a loser?

No!

It makes you human.

But because you hold the identity of “Loser”, you turn an event into something else...

Creating a meaning that doesn’t inherently exist there...

But which does impact the emotions we experience.

The emotions might not be the problem...

You might need to learn the identities you are holding, identify the helpful identities and hold them more closely and/or change the identities that are hindering you.

The majority of identities are inherently transient...

Never permanent...

Nor should they be.

We live in a world of change, so things should naturally change.

Even if the word is the same, the meaning will often change.

For instance, the word “Parent” might stay the same...

But what it means to be a “Parent” is very different between a newborn, toddler, teenager, adult, and any other stage of life or difference that exists between children.

When we look at identities more broadly...

We can discover that we can change our identities in such a way that benefits us tremendously...

And changes our emotional landscape.

Are there other things that can happen around our emotions?

Absolutely.

Next, we can look at our nervous system.

What is fascinating about our nervous system...

Is that we can store aspects of memories in our nervous system...

What is called “Memory Capsules”...

And those can remain and even expand based on “similar” experiences...

Even to the point of experiencing physical pain where the emotions are kept.

Now here is the thing...

An emotion you experience...

May logically make no sense in a specific scenario...

But it may be subconsciously related to a Memory Capsule that has been stored in our nervous system.

It may not even be a very close relation...

It could be a color...

A general shape...

A sound...

Any sort of “Aspect” that may have a slight resemblance.

So the emotion may not be the problem here...

It may actually be something unresolved in your nervous system.

What is important to understand here...

Is that the “typical” methods of working through emotions...

Do not work on the nervous system.

So you can practice those methodologies on the emotions you’re experiencing...

But if the problem stems from your nervous system, then the emotions will not resolve or change.

If you want to resolve those emotions...

You need to work through a nervous system methodology.

There is still one other potential challenge you could be facing when you experience emotions...

Other people.

Now, something that most people do not completely realize...

Is that we can experience emotions...

But the emotions are not actually “our” emotions.

We can, and often do, experience the emotional states of others...

And as humans, we can “pull” each other into each other’s emotional states.

The technical term here is “Entrainment”.

One person’s emotions can be “pulled” or “Entrained” to match another person’s emotions.

Here’s the thing...

We can learn to distinguish the difference between “our” emotions and when “others’” emotions are attempting to Entrain us.

We can also learn how to resist becoming Entrained to others’ emotions.

But...

Most people simply do not know how.

So...

They become more susceptible to becoming Entrained by whoever they are around.

This is a part of the reason why Burnout has become such a problem in the workforce...

Why it continues to become worse...

And why most organizations are making no progress in resolving the overwhelming Burnout in their organizations.

The majority, if not the entire organization, is stuck in Group Burnout.

This is an even larger problem for businesses because in Burnout we, as humans, become capped at 5% or less of our Productivity Potential...

And yes...

We can and frequently do move into Negative Productivity.

If you do not know how to avoid Entrainment...

You are most likely going to get Entrained into negative emotions...

And the emotions you experience may not end up being yours.

So this brings us to the reality...

The emotions you are experiencing are never the problem.

They are just messages from our bodies.

If your emotions feel wrong...

It is because there is a message that you are not comprehending...

Either because you are ignoring it or you have not learned how to understand it.

There is hope...

You “can” learn the meaning of the different messages...

And it is important you do...

Because if you do not, then you will always feel like you are at war with your emotions...

When they were never really the problem to begin with.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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Rigging The Game Of Life Against Ourselves

How We Unintentionally Create A Losing Life

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Do you enjoy playing games?

Most people do like some sort of game.

What is true of every game?

They have rules.

Now, let me ask you a question...

Have you ever played a game where the rules to win were incredibly difficult...

While the rules to lose were incredibly effortless?

What happens?

Well...

You lose...

A lot.

And every time you lose, you probably also dislike the game more and more...

Because as humans...

We enjoy winning...

While avoiding losing as often as possible.

But what if I told you...

That you played a game like this every single day...

Which you actually designed...

Likely without realizing it.

That game...

Is called life.

What most people do not realize in their lives...

Is that as we act in our lives...

We create rules for ourselves for what it means to succeed...

As well as what it means to lose.

Let me ask you two more questions...

What would you need to do in order to feel like you were successful in life?

Then...

What would or is currently making you feel like you’re doing poorly?

It might help to write this down...

Have you done it?

Now watch this...

Are the conditions to succeed something that takes a lot of time?

That you may not be able to accomplish in a week, month, or even a year?

Does it require a lot of difficult work to reach what you have called success?

At the same time...

How easy is it for you to feel like you are doing poorly?

Is it something that you feel daily?

Perhaps even multiple times a day?

Would one tiny moment cause you to feel like you are doing poorly?

For most people...

They will see that to feel like they are succeeding requires a ton of incredible effort...

And what causes them to feel like they are losing might happen at any moment...

And may even be completely outside of their control.

Let me ask you...

If those are the type of rules you are currently living your life around...

How is your life going to feel?

Probably terrible.

You’re going to be losing, by the rules you currently hold, all the time...

And to win probably feels like it is so far away...

Potentially even impossible to attain.

What does this do to us at a psychophysiological level?

Well...

If pursuing what makes us feel successful causes us to lose frequently...

A few things may happen...

But all of which end up causing us to lose.

We might try to make progress...

But in order to lose less often, we tiptoe around life doing everything not to trigger a loss...

Which is a really slow process, making success look further away than it needs to be.

Or...

We may avoid the goal completely because we do not want to lose...

Perhaps having tried to move toward it in the past, but failing so frequently that we decided the effort was not worth it.

Do you want to know what makes all of this worse?

The conditions we create to determine ourselves to be successful...

Are usually designed by us...

Yet simultaneously...

The conditions and rules we have to lose, we have no idea where they came from...

Why?

Because those rules are usually subconscious...

Having been designed without our conscious mind being aware...

But causing us to self-sabotage ourselves unintentionally all along the way.

Without realizing it...

We have rigged the game of life against ourselves...

Subconsciously.

So the question we need to begin to ask ourselves...

Is what can we do now?

Here is what most people do not realize...

We have the ability to define and redefine the rules of our lives.

We might be striving for a gigantic goal, and I encourage you to...

But you can have many different successes along the way.

I personally have multiple rules for success that I am able to accomplish every single day...

Which, by doing them, continue to drive me toward the larger goals of my life.

Are the rules you have allowing you to win multiple times every single day?

At the same time...

We can take the subconscious rules for failure that we have unintentionally created...

And decide that they are no longer the benchmark for failure.

Think of it like this...

If you succeed 99% of the time and miss the mark 1% of the time...

You’re still getting an A+ in life...

But so many people have defined the 1% as the benchmark for failure.

That is how you make yourself miserable...

Keep yourself small...

And struggle to grow in life.

Instead...

Redefine failure.

Do not accept 1% as being a complete and total failure when you’re succeeding 99% of the time...

Especially if you have redefined your merits of success to make winning simpler!

Instead, give yourself the grace to still be successful even if you fail 40% of the time...

The school system still considers a D a passing grade...

Why don’t you?

But here is the thing...

Most people are already achieving “way” about a 60% success rate in their lives if they have intentionally created fair rules for their lives.

The majority of people I have met are easily doing 80% or better in their lives...

Which means if they are designing rules that are more fair...

Means they rarely actually lose...

Because they are constantly higher than 60% by a significant amount.

What happens when you redefine the rules of life like this?

Life becomes vastly more enjoyable!

You are not so concerned about the occasional failures that you have.

I can tell you from my own life that I fail at least 100 times a day “just” in my writing...

But I still write and publish an article every day, which is my measure of success for writing...

And my measure of failure is not thinking about writing, which I have not done once since I began my journey of writing and publishing articles daily.

When we redefine the rules of our lives...

The game of life becomes vastly more enjoyable to play.

We attain success constantly...

And the “failures” that used to stop us dead in our tracks feel like they are of no consequence anymore...

Meaning you become more eager to play the game and win more...

You become more engaged in life...

And the natural consequence is that you end up attaining far more than you imagined possible.

Have you rigged the game of life against yourself?

Most have...

But the good news is that you can redefine the rules in your favor...

To design a winning life.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Slanderous Pseudoscience Mislabel

Understanding How Good Science Becomes Incorrectly Defined And The Most Common Reason Why

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Does “Pseudoscience” exist?

Absolutely.

But as I’ve looked into understanding human psychophysiology at deep and complex levels...

I have come to discover something interesting.

There are many modalities that become labeled as “Pseudoscience”...

But when you actually look more closely at their claims...

You discover that it is actually based on very solid science.

Then...

When you look at what “opponents” claim about those modalities...

You begin to understand that they clearly do not understand what they are talking about.

Further...

When you begin to look at history...

You begin to understand how different modalities were labeled...

And in many cases...

Mislabeled.

So the question is...

How does good science end up becoming mislabeled...

And why?

Let’s start with the how.

What I very frequently find...

Is that when it comes to science...

There are different standards and goals within different modalities.

Often...

Within any individual framework...

The standards and goals are actually very positive and make sense.

One of the biggest areas where we see a mislabel occur...

Is when you attempt to apply a different methodology’s standards and goals.

Think of it like this...

We could all agree that Michael Jordan was an objectively fantastic basketball player.

But...

If I were to judge Michael Jordan’s abilities as an athlete by the metric of how many Touchdowns he achieved in the NFL...

Aka, metrics in a sport he never played in...

The metrics would say that Michael Jordan never achieved any Touchdowns in the NFL and therefore was never a good athlete.

Now...

Does that sound like it is a fair way of judging Michael Jordan?

Of course not!

Yet when I look at understanding different psychophysiological modalities that exist...

This is precisely how I see so many methodologies judged.

What usually happens...

Is that a methodology is judged based on something that it never claims to be able to accomplish...

“Research” is done to test the claim that the methodology was never designed to accomplish...

As would be expected, the “Experiment” fails because the methodology is being misused...

Then it is determined that the methodology “does not work” and therefore is “Pseudoscience”.

A very common way this is done is using Western or Allopathic Standards...

Specifically in the idea of “Diagnosis” and “Treatment”.

Within Western and Allopathic modalities...

You cannot “treat” a disease until you can “diagnose” that disease...

So...

You need to be able to obtain a diagnosis...

Then, after that diagnosis, you can provide a specific “Treatment” for that specific “Diagnosis”.

Now, that works really well within the Western or Allopathic models.

But if you look at many health modalities that exist...

Their goal is not to identify a specific disease to “diagnose” and treat that disease...

The goal is to prevent the human body from ever getting to a point of disease.

The methods are usually designed for overall health...

Not for specific diseases.

So what you will see in the research...

Is that a modality will be “tested” to either “diagnose” a specific disease or “treat” a specific disease...

Which just is not how those methods work.

Often...

If you actually look at the chain of events...

Those diseases are caused by “multiple” factors that are going wrong...

And if you only work on “one” of those factors...

It does not resolve the overall problems that are experienced.

Even the “treatments” that are often prescribed in Allopathic or Western Modalities do not accomplish this...

They simply stop the “specific” problems...

But in so doing usually create a list of side effects that create new problems.

So...

If you look at a modality that attempts to identify “all” or “many” of the upstream problems within an individual’s life...

Then judge that modality on only one factor of the overall problems...

And further is judged on the (false) belief that everyone’s lives are similar enough that the same upstream treatment will work exactly the same way for everyone...

Then the inevitable result is that the modality will “fail” the ridiculous expectations that are unfairly being placed upon it...

Especially when the individuals conducting the experiments are not trained in those modalities in the first place.

It is designed to fail.

This brings us to the better question...

Why?

Why would things be done in this manner?

The most common reason why...

Is money.

Let me paint a picture for you...

If the Western and Allopathic Model requires there to be a Diagnosis...

But people stay healthy and therefore never get sick enough to obtain a diagnosis...

Who loses profit?

Now...

Does this mean that the Western and Allopathic Models do not work?

No, not necessarily.

They can be incredible methodologies for specific situations.

But...

What it “does” mean...

Is that those modalities are incentivized to have people become diagnosed and that treatments are not so powerful as to lose the diagnosis...

And some individuals within those modalities have extremely vested interests to make sure that the money keeps coming in.

So...

What those individuals will do...

Is conduct or fund research against other modalities, purposefully, to get poor results to discredit those modalities...

So that people will not seek them out in the first place...

Even when those modalities actually have incredible scientific research to support what they do and spectacular success rates in helping people be healthy...

And sometimes even helping people remove diagnoses they were told they would never escape with incredible reliability.

Of course...

Many of those practitioners are also not allowed to “say” that, because the same people funding the slanderous research also fund legislation that will prevent that kind of language from being allowed.

Now...

I started this article by saying that Pseudoscience does exist.

There are modalities that exist which make claims that have no reliable evidence or science to support them, which can be very harmful.

So I am not saying you should blindly trust every modality.

I am also not saying that we should destroy Allopathic and Western Medicine.

Those modalities have incredible success in certain things, and importantly are great at making sure people do not die when they are already in poor condition.

What I am saying...

Is that you should do your own real research.

Look at what scientific research claims.

Look at what different modalities claim.

See what makes sense.

Pay closer attention to why things make no logical sense.

Follow the evidence.

See what proponents say.

See what the opposition says.

Do not immediately fall for the labels...

Nor believe that the labels are inherently a conspiracy theory.

The truth does exist...

But you need to wade through the different information and test the various claims to find the truth of it all.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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Why Am I Stuck On My Health Goals?

The Three Factors I See Holding Back Most People’s Health

Written by a human, for humans, always.

I did not originally set out to understand people’s health problems.

I was fascinated with a singular idea...

Peak performance.

How to intentionally get our psychophysiology set up to get consistent results.

What I call today becoming Hyper-Human.

But here’s the thing...

When you begin to understand how the body is “supposed” to function...

You also begin to ask the question...

Why is it not functioning that way?

That question has taken me down a fascinating journey...

Which has also helped me understand why so many people are stuck on their health goals.

In working with clients, there are three factors that I frequently see...

Which hold most people back.

What are the three factors?

The first is their emotions.

What most people fail to realize...

Is that most health problems we have stem from our emotions...

And the few that do not still end up having an emotional component that becomes created that needs to become resolved.

For instance...

If you fall out of a tree and break your leg...

We can say that the damage that was caused was based on factors of gravity, speed, biomechanics, and bone strength.

None of those are emotional causes of what happened...

But you will experience emotions from the broken leg...

Perhaps feeling angry, stupid, or frustrated by what occurred.

There may be fear about what this means for the future.

Certainly, there will be different emotions about learning how to function with this new change in the body.

Emotions are involved.

If you do not have solutions for the emotions that are experienced...

Ways of resolving them...

Then those emotions can actually create and/or fuel poor health outcomes.

What is the second factor?

The nervous system.

Now, many people believe that the nervous system is simply an information highway for brain signals...

And that is partially true...

But fails to understand that it is actually vastly more than that.

In fact...

The nervous system is filled with neurons...

That can learn, think, and act independently of the brain.

The nervous system is really an interdependent system that can tell the brain what it wants to do, can obey what the brain is guiding it to do, and refuse what the brain is attempting to get it to do.

The nervous system actually has its own goal that is different from the brain.

What makes this more fascinating...

Is that the nervous system pathways will develop and change in alignment with its own goals...

Regardless of what the brain’s goals may be.

The classic example here is when some people experience the “fight-or-flight” response...

They will report that they acted in a way that they did not want to...

Such as running away when they knew they should have stood their ground.

What is happening?

The brain was attempting to tell the nervous system to stand their ground...

But the nervous system ignored the brain and initiated procedures to run...

Likely a reaction that was developed or subconsciously inherited (not genetically).

Further than this...

As these pathways develop over time...

Based on a variety of factors...

Including emotional factors...

They will become habituated by the nervous system, and it can change the information pathways.

What makes it more challenging...

Is that there can be physical, chemical, and emotional challenges that exist in the nervous system...

Which you cannot resolve through traditional methodologies that most people look to when working on their health.

The result...

Is that many people are doing a lot of things to fix their health...

But are working in the wrong areas to resolve the issues.

The result...

Is that if the problems remain...

It will end up spreading into new challenges in other systems of the body.

What is the third factor?

The environment that they exist within.

You can look at typical factors people think of when they consider this...

Like air, water, and food quality that are all important.

But it also should include factors such as the stress levels of the people you spend the most time with...

Sleep environment...

Amount of sunlight you take in on your skin...

And more.

Your environment can create many negative health factors...

And they may not all be directly your fault.

The classic area I see this in today’s world is burnout.

If you are in a group of people who are experiencing burnout...

Through psychophysiological mechanisms such as our Neurocardiology...

We can actually be “pulled” into burnout ourselves...

Which can explain how people will go on vacation, feel great, and within a week be exactly where they were (or worse!) before their vacation.

This is known as “Group Burnout”, and it is impacting over 80% of the workforce.

When you combine these factors...

It helps us understand why so many people are stuck on their health goals.

Any one of these...

But very often it is all three simultaneously...

Can either make other health solutions significantly less effective...

And in some cases...

Can make other health solutions actually detrimental.

The classic example here is working out.

If your nervous system is in a state of chronic fight-or-flight while you are at rest...

Then you begin to add on difficult strength lifting or fast running...

You can actually end up making the chronic fight-or-flight worse...

Which means that all of your working out ends up being detrimental instead of helpful.

This is also a part of the reason (but not the entire reason) that many people struggle with changing certain aspects of their health.

Often...

They will try to change one factor which has a negative impact in another area of the psychophysiology...

The body will seek to avoid anything creating a negative impact...

And subconsciously their body will undermine all of their efforts.

Even when they logically know these things “should” help some area of their health...

Their body will work against the goals their brain is trying to accomplish.

If you want to attain your health goals...

So that you can become Hyper-Human...

You need to understand which health factors are at play...

And if you feel like you’re stuck...

There is likely a very real and reasonable reason you feel that way.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Missing Secret Ingredient To Success

What Most People Fail To Obtain In The Pursuit Of Their Goals

Written by a human, for humans, always.

We live in a culture that is obsessed with success.

Always driving to reach a goal...

As fast as possible...

Quicker and quicker...

Obtaining the results to attain whatever is at the end of the goal.

But this is where the irony begins...

So many people...

Become so desperate in their pursuit of their goals...

That they end up failing to obtain the secret ingredient to their success...

Even when they appear to be reaching their goals.

In fact...

Sometimes it is the actual attaining of the goal...

That becomes the problem for so many people.

So...

What is this secret ingredient?

Experience.

What so many people fail to obtain when they are rushing toward their goals...

Is to obtain real and significant experience.

They are so desperate to reach the end goal...

That they miss what is most valuable...

The process.

This is one of the greatest problems in today’s world.

People will do just about anything for an end result...

Completely overshooting everything that would provide them with what they seek.

See...

True success does not come from attaining the goals.

Yes, you can make things appear like they are successful...

Reach different end goals.

But the problem with that...

Is that you begin to “appear” very successful...

Without truly “being” successful.

This creates a certain level of expectation that people will have of you.

Except...

The appearance is greater than the reality.

Without going through the deep processes...

Without the experience gained...

You cannot back up the image that is created.

Which becomes the exact problem.

When you have an image that is created...

People expect you to live up to that image...

But when you cannot do that...

You lose trust and respect.

You lose everything that had the potential to provide you with success...

And the bigger problem...

Is that we live in a world where a reputation spreads as fast as the internet.

Once your reputation for being unable to meet expectations spreads...

It does not go back.

Being unable to meet that expectation...

Has ruined entire careers.

I have watched people lose everything...

Have to start over...

Rebuild from scratch...

Because they were obsessed with the image of success...

Rather than being truly successful.

I have also watched some people...

Do it over...

And over again.

Running from one industry to the next...

Failing everywhere they went because they continued to chase success...

Without ever truly being successful.

There is nothing wrong with wanting success...

Or chasing your goals.

But you need to understand and realize that the goal is not the true merit of success.

It is not sustainable.

It will not continue to provide for you.

You will get to the goal...

And realize how little it actually gives.

Do not then make the mistake of chasing more goals faster...

Because it will simply inflate the appearances further and further...

Until the appearances become completely unmanageable to maintain...

And you become discovered in the process.

The only way to obtain success...

That continues to provide anything of substance in your life...

Is to go through the process...

Over and over again...

Gain experience...

Keep going...

Until who you are internally...

Vastly exceeds who you appear to be externally.

It is then and only then...

That you will have the secret ingredient that will allow you to continually reach new heights and new goals...

That you will be able to maintain.

What is perhaps most interesting about this process...

Is that when you do it correctly...

You will reach more goals...

More quickly...

But you will also realize...

That the goals were never what made you successful...

Who you become is where success exists.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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TRAUMA, Trauma, trauma, or Drama?

When A Word Becomes Overused And How It Causes Problems For Everyone

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Trauma exists.

But there’s a problem...

What do “you” mean when you say trauma?

No...

I’m not asking you to write in the comment section or email me your thoughts.

I’m asking you to consider what the word “trauma” actually means.

Why?

The reality is that in today’s world it means a “lot” of different things...

Those different things are often not equal...

Either in intensity nor psychophysiologically...

And that is a problem.

The reason it is a problem...

Is that different types of “trauma” as people use the word today...

Require vastly different methodologies in terms of psychophysiology.

For instance...

Say you receive blunt-force trauma to the head.

That is a form of “trauma”...

But if you go and try to get it resolved with talk therapy...

It really is not going to do anything helpful.

That just is not what a therapist works on...

It is the wrong type of trauma.

If you have blunt-force trauma to your head...

You probably are going to have a concussion...

Which means you likely need a Medical Doctor of some sort, from a Sports Medicine Specialist to a Neurologist.

Now, when I asked what “you” mean when you say trauma...

You likely were thinking of a different type of trauma that is more frequently discussed in today’s world...

Psychological trauma.

But again...

When people talk about psychological trauma...

They often are not discussing the same thing.

There is TRAUMA, which I’m using here to refer to some of the greatest psychological horrors that we can be exposed to as humans...

There is Trauma, which is still a form of trauma that leaves a significant psychological impact but at a lesser level than TRAUMA...

There is trauma, which is actually just regular everyday adversity that humans face, but which people seek to put a label on it for various reasons...

Then there is drama, which is where a person is not experiencing or has not experienced any significant level of psychological trauma, but is seeking either...

Some reason or explanation for what they are facing in their life, which is not caused by any trauma, but which is a valid unrelated problem...

Or...

They are seeking attention.

Here is how this becomes so problematic.

When people say they have “trauma” in any of these senses...

They could be referring to any one of these...

And getting them incorrect becomes very problematic.

If you treat someone who has attention-seeking drama “trauma” as if they had TRAUMA....

You can actually end up causing real psychophysiological harm to the attention-seeker...

While simultaneously making it vastly more difficult for someone with TRAUMA to get the resources they actually need.

The same happens for the unrelated drama “trauma” where they may be chasing something in therapy that does not exist...

Be getting medicated for problems they do not have...

Often creating new problems in their body...

While the real challenges they face have to do with something else entirely that is going on unresolved...

While time and resources are being used all on the wrong thing.

Or if we look at the person with trauma...

If we treat them as if their regular human challenges are Trauma...

This can very easily begin to create feelings of brokenness, leading quickly to a loss of autonomy and agency...

Which creates significant psychophysiological barriers of powerlessness which can be difficult to overcome...

All over things which are very normal, human, and frequently have relatively easy solutions.

Now, something similar can happen with Trauma if we treat it as TRAUMA...

But the difference is that even though both have similar solutions...

By calling it the same thing, the person with Trauma may “believe” that it is something which is extremely difficult to overcome...

Because they are imagining that they have TRAUMA...

And this creates a psychophysiological response where it actually becomes “more” difficult for them to overcome their Trauma.

It is a weird function of our psychophysiology that simply by believing something is more difficult, it literally becomes more difficult than it has to be...

And it is the same function that by believing something is possible, we are vastly more likely to be able to accomplish or overcome that thing.

When we use the same exact word for TRAUMA and Trauma, we may actually make it vastly more difficult for the person with Trauma to get to a resolution in their life.

All of this can also become worse...

Depending on the healthcare practitioner you have.

How?

Well...

While it is possible to have an egomaniacal healthcare practitioner who purposefully does bad things...

Such as misdiagnose for their own profit...

Or push a client deeper into their problems so they can give a new label to the client’s challenges for their own gain...

Often that is not the real challenge.

Far more often...

A healthcare practitioner is trained in a specific way, and they may be really good at how they are trained...

But their training actually becomes the problem.

It was designed in a certain way to see the world a certain way and treat things in such a manner...

And because that is how their entire vision was shaped within their training...

It becomes a set of blinders.

So, say that a particular talk therapist is trained that most emotional challenges stem from Trauma...

What it does is that it frames their perception to “see” every emotional challenge as a Trauma to identify.

Then, their training kicks in...

And they start to both convince their client that there “must” be a Trauma, and they will begin a crusade to find that Trauma...

Even if the real problem might actually be the fact that the client has a nutrient deficiency in their diet, making it impossible for their body to produce certain neurochemicals that we create the emotions they seek.

The vast majority of the time...

This type of talk therapist actually really does intend well for the client...

But their training has blinded them into seeing the world in such a way that actually does not help clients who have no Trauma...

Potentially even to the point where the client unintentionally invents a memory, which now both the client and therapist truly believe was hidden deep in the subconscious.

However...

The problems do not end here for us...

Because we can also have what are called Trauma Capsules, which are progressions of Memory Capsules in the Nervous System.

Now here is what is interesting about the Trauma Capsules...

They “can” be created by TRAUMA and Trauma...

But they can also be created by a long series of trauma with similar features...

Such as sights, colors, sounds, emotions, etc.

Now here is where it becomes tricky...

The Trauma Capsule can develop from these...

Begin to become physically experienced as things such as pain...

Can become triggered by anything we experience in the future with similar features to what was originally stored there...

But...

Usually you cannot solve them through methodologies used for TRAUMA or Trauma.

What this means...

Is that someone may go to a talk therapist for TRAUMA or Trauma...

Actually “resolve” the purely psychological aspect of those events...

But may still experience physical effects from the Trauma Capsule becoming triggered...

Making both the therapist and the client believe that there is still something unresolved psychologically...

When the real challenge is actually in the Nervous System, requiring a different solution.

Then...

You can have some mixture of “all” of these different types of “trauma”.

For instance...

Someone could go to war and experience a physical trauma...

That is simultaneously a psychological TRAUMA...

Which also is stored in the nervous system as a Trauma Capsule.

They could go to a talk therapist and a Medical Doctor for those different traumas.

The doctor may not be able to do a lot about the injury except make sure things do not become worse, which may become a new Trauma.

That may end up leading the client to have relationship problems, making them lonely, and so they begin to have a seeking attention drama out of their loneliness.

The TRAUMA may become resolved from a psychological standpoint, but the Trauma Capsule may still trigger...

So a Talk Therapist may begin to wonder if there is a “different” Trauma that is hidden beneath the TRAUMA.

The client likes that they are getting attention, and they are still experiencing the effects of the Trauma Capsule, and so begin to believe there is a subconscious Trauma...

But because it does not actually exist...

The therapist and the client continue to delve and treat for problems that do not exist...

While real problems remain unresolved and unquestioned...

Even though the Therapist really is trying everything in their power to help the client...

And even though the client likes the attention, they really do want to reach a resolution of their challenges to live life as “normally” as possible...

Whatever that means in the aftereffects of their real TRAUMA.

Can you see how we overuse the word “trauma” now as a society...

And how difficult it can make things for everyone?

What does this mean for us?

We need to become vastly more precise with what we mean when we say “trauma”.

Whether that means we create new terms...

Or we eliminate certain types and begin to call them something more appropriate to their scale.

We also need to have a deeper understanding of the various ways things play out from a whole person perspective...

Understood through different types of modalities...

So that any singular practitioner does not become trapped in one line of thinking...

And can make better calls for where a line might need to be drawn in their work and where a different type of practitioner might be more appropriate.

People also need to understand...

That not everything called “trauma” is the same thing...

And to treat them all the same is a recipe for disaster.

Trauma exists...

We just need to know what type we are talking about to find the best solutions.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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Fact Or Truth?

Understanding How These Are Not The Same And How Information Can Be Easily Misleading

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Let me ask you a question...

Do you want facts or truth?

There are many people who believe that these are the same thing...

And they can be...

But the reality is that they are not always the same.

Worse...

That confusing these can be utilized as a way to mislead us.

Let me prove it to you...

Starting with the idea that these are not the same.

Do you want a truth that is not a fact?

I love my family to the moon and back.

Now, is this true?

Absolutely.

Is it a fact?

No, because you cannot quantify love through a physical distance.

But when someone says that they love someone to the moon and back...

Or any distance...

We all understand that it is a figure of speech to explain something that is true...

Even if it is not a fact.

Sometimes...

There are truths that are so complex in life...

That we really do not have access to all of the “facts” that would be necessary to explain and understand those truths...

But that does not disqualify it from being true...

It just means that we lack the knowledge, understanding, or perhaps even the capacity to put it into facts.

Lacking facts does not necessarily diminish something from being true.

On the other end of the spectrum...

Let me give you a fact that is not true.

Say there is a study where two solutions were tested, and the new option was twice as effective...

The general belief is that this fact means that the new option is a significantly better solution.

But what if I told you...

That one option had a 0.5% effectiveness rate, while the new option had a 1% effectiveness rate.

Is it a fact that 1% is twice as effective as 0.5%?

Yes, that is a fact.

But it is not true that the new option is significantly better in terms of real results...

Even if the study showed “statistical significance,” which is different than real result significance.

This is a fact...

That has been portrayed in a specific way...

To tell a story that is not true.

I see this happen “all” the time in science, business, and politics...

“Facts” that are presented in such a way as to tell a story...

But when you look more closely...

You discover that the story is completely false.

Now this is where the misguidance really begins to take shape in the world.

Many people and organizations will try to convince you that fact and truth are inseparable...

Which then leads to this happening...

They will take a truth that does not, at least yet, have facts to claim that it “cannot” be true...

Or they will design systems, procedures, experiments, etc. in such a way to create facts that claim to “disprove” these truths...

Then...

They will design systems, procedures, experiments, etc. in such a way to “convince” you of something else...

Something that is not true...

But which will greatly benefit them in the process...

Usually at your expense.

“Facts” are in this way used as a weapon to mask and cloud the truth.

This is why context is really important.

Let me give you another example of this, so you can appreciate what I am getting at, even if you do not “believe” in it...

The Bible.

So many people (Non-Christians and Christians alike) will throw around Biblical passages and verses as “facts” of what the Bible claims...

But how much of the Bible is poetry?

About 1/3rd of the entire Bible is poetry...

Sometimes mixed in with other types of writing, such as designed narrative or discourse, without ever making it visible (especially in translations).

Let me ask you a question...

Are you ever supposed to take poetry completely literally as facts?

No.

In nearly every poetic style, words are used in a special way to get at a truth without using facts.

So...

Do you think someone understands what the Bible is trying to say...

If they treat poetry as if it were facts?

Of course not.

And you can appreciate that without needing to believe in what the Bible says.

You can attest that if someone is reading poetry and judging it as if it were fact...

Then they clearly are not understanding the purpose of what is being written, and they are treating it incorrectly...

Especially when you consider that some Biblical poetry relies on purposeful wordplay in a language that most people do not understand, that does not translate.

If you do not have the context of what is being presented...

Then you are not going to interpret what is being said correctly.

And if someone presents information that is lacking context...

It is easier for them to manipulate what is being understood by others.

This is true of any religious text...

Any scientific research...

Any statistics presented to justify laws...

Any news reporting...

Anything that works to utilize facts as a way to convince you of something.

This is also a large part of the reason that so many people are misled in today’s world...

They hear or see something that is a fact...

But which is frequently taken out of context completely to tell you something that is, in fact, a lie (yes, the pun was intended).

What is the takeaway here?

Be careful of the difference between fact and truth.

They are not the same thing.

People will use facts to tell lies and create deceptions.

People will create standards that a truth cannot meet to convince you it is false.

Understanding this reality is incredibly important...

And perhaps what you need to pay attention to most closely...

Is whether what you are looking at is really the truth...

Or whether you have been convinced of false beliefs and understandings by facts that are designed to deceive you.

To determine this...

You need to get the context of what is being presented...

To get a clearer picture of what the truth may actually be.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Horror And Hope Of Humanity

The Challenge Of Looking Beyond The Darkness

Written by a human, for humans, always.

There are some days...

Where you look out at what humans do...

And it strikes deep into your core...

Horror.

Things that people say and do in the world...

That make horror films seem like child’s play.

Sometimes it seems too horrible to believe...

And I think...

Sadly...

Many people turn away...

Actually believing that some of these things are a joke...

Lies and deceptions devised by “the other side”...

All while refusing to face the possibility...

That the horror is real.

That among us...

There are human individuals who commit acts worse than imagined monsters.

It couldn’t be possible...

But it is.

If you are brave enough to look into the darkness yourself...

Instead of just listening to the words or opinions of others (who sometimes lie)...

How will you handle it?

Worse...

When you look at those who commit these terrible acts...

And see...

The lack of empathy...

The justifications they utilize to make themselves out to appear ethical...

The refusal to apologize or admit they caused any harm...

And sometimes...

The desire to go even further with future acts...

You begin to understand that the darkness that exists in the world...

Sometimes is unimaginable.

It can become very easy...

To see that kind of horror in humanity...

And question whether anything is worth doing in the world.

If perhaps...

It would be better for all of this darkness to simply allow itself to destroy itself.

To simply give in and give up.

That is the easier path...

But it is also the more horrifying act.

Because there are two things that will happen if we do this...

The first is that the reality is...

The darkness will not simply go away...

And even if it does somehow destroy itself...

It will not be quick.

How many more people will have to suffer horrifying existences...

Because we all simply allowed it to happen?

With this...

There will always be someone who will work to stand against the darkness...

But if they do it alone...

They will be crushed quickly and quietly without even a whisper being heard.

That flicker of hope will be squashed.

It will not be for nothing...

But it will accomplish much less than it could have...

If only more of us stood against the darkness.

What we need to realize...

Is that the reality is that the deepest levels of darkness that exist in humanity...

Are really the minority.

But...

If they can convince you either...

That they are not actually that bad...

Or...

That standing against them is hopeless...

Or...

That there is a bigger boogie-man which they created through lies, deception, and misinformation that you should pay attention to...

It only allows them to gain more power and access to spread their horror.

Is that truly what you want?

I know...

That to look into the eyes of true darkness is terrifying...

It can be painful and gut-wrenching...

But you cannot allow that darkness to destroy the hope of something better.

The world only becomes better...

When we live in truth and reality...

Working together...

To make the world around us a better place.

But it will only happen...

If we actually seek truth and reality...

Stop falling into the many different deceptions that exist around us...

Designed to cause us to react instead of actually using our brains...

Because if you were actually wise, you would see through the deceptions of every side...

Then find the common ground amidst those who actually want to design a more hopeful future.

The darkness thrives when we are disconnected, distracted, disempowered, and divided.

Hope only comes from genuine connection, focus, empowerment, and unity.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Little Things

The Unexpected Rewards Of Life And Where They Come From

Written by a human, for humans, always.

You never know what little things will come up through your day...

Or the impact it will have on others.

I take my brother-in-law to therapy a few times a week for speech therapy...

He was diagnosed with non-verbal autism at a very young age, and we’ve been working on different therapies with some incredible successes.

But what happened today did not have to do with my brother.

As I sit in the waiting room area, there are different parents and children that you end up seeing week to week.

One of the kids that I have seen many different times typically keeps to themselves.

But today...

Something different happened.

They walked right over to me...

Sat next to me...

And held onto my arm.

The child has their own little ways of communicating and interacting in the world...

The therapy center works with a variety of individuals through different challenges they have, from movements to communication...

And the child’s mother was right there letting me know a bit about what they were doing as they happened.

Now...

For me, it was an incredible moment to see this little one open up a path of communication to me...

But equally incredible...

Was the look on the mother’s face.

I have seen this mother many times in the office...

Some days I can tell that she has a difficult time with the emotions she faces...

Especially when it is a more difficult day for the child.

So to see her...

Watching her child interact kindly with another...

With a look of relief that, even if the interaction was contrary to “societal norms”, was going well...

And perhaps happy that I was open to having the unexpected interaction...

Was really special for me to see.

There are a lot of people in the world who are struggling.

Sometimes their struggles are their own, such as the little child I interacted with.

Other times, the struggles are through the circumstances that they must face in life, such as the mother.

This is what I know for certain, though...

It is the little moments that can make all the difference.

Participating in the life of another.

Helping others feel at ease in a difficult world.

Providing opportunity and being calm in the face of the unexpected.

Not adding to the struggles that one already faces in life.

It is in these little moments...

Where there can be so much unexpected joy in life.

You only have these kinds of interactions in life...

If you allow yourself to be open to them.

Sadly...

There are so many people who are closed off from the world...

Sometimes for valid reasons where they experienced real challenges...

But in closing ourselves off...

We end up harming ourselves.

As humans...

We are designed to have interactions with others...

To feel different emotions...

To participate in life with others.

It is not always easy...

There are real difficulties, struggles, and challenges that come with it...

But it is also where we have so many opportunities to feel alive.

Many of the most rewarding moments in life...

Come from the little things.

I have had incredible recognition for my work...

But being able to participate and be a part of others’ lives...

That has always felt vastly more rewarding to me.

From my clients...

To my brother-in-law...

To today’s interaction with this young child.

It is those little things which add such flavor and zest to life...

But they only happen when we allow ourselves to be open to them.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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Whether To Be Unorthodox

Understanding The World And Whether You Need To Do Things Differently

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What is the point of a system?

That is not something that most people really stop to think about.

They will look at the systems...

They will question and attack the systems...

They will join the systems...

But rarely do people actually ask what the point of a system really is.

So often...

We make hasty decisions about whether we believe a system is “right” or “wrong”...

Without understanding the purpose of what a system was created for.

So...

What is the point of a system?

Really the entire design of a system...

Is to create more consistent results of some sort.

That really is the entire point.

There is some desired result that we are seeking out in the world...

So we design a system to generate a result...

With the goal to attain that result.

As we understand the path better...

We try to develop and tweak these systems to continue to get more predictable results.

This is how an animal trail develops into a dirt road, to a merchant road, to ship passages, to modern highways and air passages.

A system of travel...

Designed and updated over time...

With the goal of more predictably getting better results.

So are systems good?

Well...

They absolutely can be...

But they are not always.

If your goal was to get goods across the ocean...

Trying to build a merchant road through the water would never work.

Sometimes you need new and different systems...

And sometimes the systems that exist are so limited in their extents...

Sometimes for good reasons...

That they can become counterproductive in situations where they are not designed for.

For instance...

If you build a highway to allow for vehicles to travel more quickly...

You might need to put walls on turns as a safety precaution when cars need to change directions while maintaining high speeds...

So that those cars do not go off the road and create more damage.

That is a good system that has been designed...

But if you were to put houses on those fast-speed turns with tiny driveways...

Do you think it would be effective?

Likely not, because it would either create crashes near those areas more frequently...

Or there would be extreme slowdowns which would make the highway pointless...

Or both.

What am I getting at?

Sometimes when you are going through life...

You will discover that there are systems that have been designed...

Sometimes with good purposes and uses...

But which struggle with certain goals because they are poor systems for other purposes.

But what happens to those other purposes?

Should they just be dismissed as not worth paying attention to?

In some cases, that may be a wise decision.

Building houses right on the turns of fast highways is probably not worth it.

But in other cases...

The value and need might be more needed and valuable to society...

Such as in modern healthcare.

We have some great and amazing systems that have been designed to keep people alive...

Especially in the case of emergencies...

But those same systems appear to be doing a very poor job of keeping people from getting sick in the first place.

So then there comes a moment where you have to make a decision...

Do you join the system and see what you can do from within that system?

Or...

Do you decide to become unorthodox?

Now...

Some people are far too hasty to make the decision to become unorthodox...

And in their desire to do things differently...

Actually end up making things worse...

Destroying systems that are generally good...

All for the sake of being unorthodox.

That can actually be a horrifying and terrible thing to do...

As we have seen in different governmental systems throughout history.

Sometimes becoming unorthodox...

Is actually the problem...

Especially when it is done dishonestly or without truly understanding the systems currently at work.

Sometimes the system is designed in such a way for very good reasons.

Before you make the decision to do something unorthodox...

It is incredibly important that you actually understand what is already at play in the current systems...

Not in theory or on paper...

But in working reality and how it impacts people’s real lives.

You cannot improve something if you do not really understand what is or is not working...

And you are vastly more likely to break something good than fix something wrong with poor understanding.

That is what we see time and time again throughout history...

When people are poorly informed...

But have a delusional belief they know better...

They both create new problems while also falling into old problems that already had working solutions.

And...

Sometimes the current systems truly are not enough...

Requiring someone to think outside of the current systems...

While appreciating what is working...

To become unorthodox.

Here is another thing to add into this line of questioning...

If the current systems are not working...

Is it really because there is a problem with the system itself...

Or do the problems exist because those currently maintaining the system are doing poorly?

See...

Sometimes we are quick to say that the systems are the problems...

But the truth may be that it is not inherently the system that is problematic...

Rather, it could be people who are misusing the system, purposefully or unintentionally...

Or it could be that certain things are not being done within the system, which, if they were, would fix everything.

In these cases...

The solution is not something unorthodox...

But rather becoming more orthodox in what already exists.

Here is what we need to really understand in the question of whether to become unorthodox...

Yes...

We do need people who are willing and able to ask different questions and find new answers that do not currently exist...

And...

We also need people who make the current systems work better.

We need both types of people...

Orthodox and unorthodox.

People who develop the systems...

And people who design new systems.

Ideally...

We also need these types of people to work together to build upon what is already working...

While developing new ways of working that improve everything at large.

Do not be so quick to make a decision on whether to be unorthodox...

Maybe it is the right decision...

But it could also be the wrong one.

You will not know for certain...

Until you actually understand the real systems that are already at play...

Deeply and intimately.

Be wary in the choice of whether to become unorthodox.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Factor Most People Miss When Considering Emotional And Cognitive Intelligence (EQ/EI and IQ)

The Lost VQ Difference

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Many people discuss the importance of different types of intelligence.

Cognitive Intelligence, or IQ, has been something we have scored and tried to understand and correlate with success for decades...

Not always for good purposes.

Emotional Intelligence, or EQ or EI depending on who is writing, has been something focused on in many business circles for decades as well...

With equally strong claims about its ability to determine success.

Over the years...

People have argued that these stand as the most important factors of our success.

Different people frequently argue which is more important...

IQ or EQ/EI...

Often with outdated information or misinformation on the subjects.

Some believe that the greater ability to understand and solve problems...

Having access to a greater breadth of knowledge more quickly...

And to find unnoticed patterns in information...

Is the key to success.

Others believe that it is through better connection...

Through understanding others at a higher level...

And being able to unify and coordinate greater numbers of people together...

Is the key to success.

The truth of it...

Is that both are important...

Incredibly important.

However...

The reality is that most people fail to understand either...

This coming from someone who is a member of MENSA (Testing Top 2% of IQ worldwide) and is in the Top 1% of EQ (Based on the MEIQ-R9 Test).

Why?

There is actually a factor which underpins both IQ and EQ/EI...

That when it drops...

So do both IQ and EQ/EI at a statistically significant level...

And when it rises...

So do both IQ and EQ/EI at a statistically significant level.

How much?

Enough to push people into a new “standard deviation”, aka percentile group.

What is the factor?

VQ or Vitality Intelligence...

Understanding how our bodies, as humans, function...

And taking care of our bodies so that we can utilize our facilities to their greatest.

We can start with something simple...

Nutrients.

Have you ever heard of the phrase, “hangry”?

It is the idea that we become more irritated when we are hungry...

Even to the point of becoming belligerently angry!

What is happening at the psychophysiological level?

Our cells need to create a certain amount of energy (Mg-ATP) to do daily functioning...

And when our cells are not doing that...

It creates problems...

Especially for our brains, which consume a lot of energy (Mg-ATP).

Fewer neurochemicals are produced...

Attention and focus begin to demand that we move toward survival mechanisms...

Anything that gets in the way of survival becomes a potential threat...

And we treat those aspects of life as such...

Even if it is an innocent bystander who has good intentions.

The result...

Because we do not have enough energy (Mg-ATP)...

Our VQ declines...

As does both our IQ and EQ/EI.

Now, that is just looking at “one” factor of nutrients.

Just looking at the nutrients aspect of VQ alone...

There are a number of other factors that create problems...

Without even beginning to consider any of the other factors involved in VQ.

What are some of the other factors of VQ at play?

Water intake and quality.

State of the nervous system.

Identity depth and stability.

Total stress levels and stress threshold.

Flow proneness, capacity, and consistency.

Gut microbiome health.

Movement levels and capacity.

Environmental factors, including other humans and their VQ status.

Toxin load and elimination capacity.

Again...

All of these VQ factors...

Have both direct and indirect impacts on IQ and EQ/EI...

And are vastly more complex than the general label that I have established here.

If you are unaware of the status of these different aspects of VQ in your own life...

As is true for the vast majority of people...

The reality is that your IQ and EQ/EI are likely significantly lower than what is attainable for you.

What I have found for most people that I work with...

Is that when we work on specific areas of their VQ...

Their IQ and EQ/EI naturally rise without necessarily needing to focus on them.

Plus...

When you do work on IQ and EQ/EI specific work to develop them...

They are learned and retained much more quickly.

Are IQ and EQ/EI important to success?

Absolutely.

But to truly reach your own heights in them...

You need a strong VQ to support all of your efforts.

If your VQ is low...

It will absolutely undermine all of your efforts in life that require IQ and EQ/EI.

This is also a large part of the reason why so many programs that work on these...

Whether it is classroom instruction to teach new skills...

Leadership courses to develop your capacity to lead...

Or emotional intelligence courses designed to help you handle the emotions of yourself and others with greater ease...

Usually fail.

Most people in today’s world are not at a VQ level in their lives to effectively learn and develop these aspects of their lives...

And even when they are working hard to do so...

Often get little to no return for all of their effort (and money).

Not to mention...

That many programs that look at factors of performance health...

Such as Burnout...

Fail to address most of the aspects of VQ...

That they really do little in the long term...

Often only providing momentary relief, which then collapses either back to where they were previously...

Or to a worse state.

VQ is so vitally important to living at our human potential...

What I call Hyper-Human...

But so few people really understand how they are designed as humans.

When you understand how you are designed...

Suddenly there is so much more that you become capable of...

Which usually surprises people.

We have such a small view of ourselves and what is possible...

Because we as humans are really only using so little of what is available to us...

While simultaneously using that little at such a low quality...

That it is no surprise we give ourselves so little credit.

But...

When we understand and optimize VQ...

The entire realm of possibilities within our lives drastically changes.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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A Common Phrase That Holds Most People Back

What It Actually Means Psychologically And What Most People Fail To Realize About It

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Many people say that they want success...

But the truth is that very few people ever have the success they desire.

Sometimes they get a taste...

A win here...

But rarely is it sustained.

There are a number of reasons that it happens.

However...

There is one phrase that has always irritated me...

Which many people say...

That ends up holding them back from the goals they have in life.

What is that phrase?

Some version of...

I was born this way.

Now before you freak out...

“Can” someone be born a certain way which creates valid struggles in their lives for the success they desire?

Absolutely.

But that tends to be the exception...

While the vast majority of people who claim they are born a certain way...

Are actually saying something else psychologically...

And what they are saying is why they are being held back.

What is it they are saying?

They do not want to change...

They do not want to become a different person from who they are...

They do not want to take time and effort to grow.

The truth of it is that...

Most people who claim to be “born that way”...

Are really just refusing to change that aspect of themselves.

But perhaps the more important question is...

Why?

If changing and growth would provide them with everything they are hoping for...

Why would they refuse to make a real effort toward that change?

Why are so many people...

So quick...

To accept that they are “born” a certain way?

It has to do with identity.

The phrase I was “born” this way...

Is actually a statement of identity.

It is a belief that they have developed in their lives...

That often they actually think is true...

That whatever “is” who they are.

That is an identity claim.

This is why people are so quick to refuse to change around identity claims...

The reality is that most people...

Only know a handful of identities they have...

And because they only know a few identities...

Losing any of them...

Feels like a tremendous loss.

See...

When it comes to our Psyche...

We seek a level of stability.

It allows us to navigate the world with courage, knowing that if something goes wrong...

We have something stable to fall back on.

But the problem of identity for most people...

Is that they know so few of their identities that it already feels unstable...

Made worse by the fact...

That the vast majority of identities people know...

Are inherently transitory.

What does this mean?

They inevitably change.

No matter how hard you try to hold onto them...

They end up changing.

Sometimes they are dramatic changes...

Such as when someone is let go from their dream job and becomes unable to get back into their career.

Sometimes they are more subtle...

Such as when a parent goes from raising a newborn to a toddler, to a child, to a teenager, to an adult.

These identities always end up changing...

Which becomes terrifying when we are desperate for some level of stability...

That is not there.

There is a reason that mid-life crises (more accurately, change-of-life crises) and empty nest syndromes are so common...

They are common examples of identities that are transitory...

That people held onto too tightly...

And end up feeling lost when they change.

In a similar way...

Most people who claim they are “born” a certain way...

Are actually holding onto a transitory identity...

And because they know so few identities in their lives...

They are terrified to lose any of their identities.

The result...

Is that instead of reaching out for what is possible and growing...

They latch onto what they have...

Claiming they were just born as such.

Is it true?

Rarely.

Does it cause people to fail?

A scary percentage of the time.

So...

What becomes the solution?

Understanding our identities.

Determining the difference between truly stable identities...

What I call Core Identities...

And transitory identities.

It is about beginning to learn and understand...

That there is a significant difference between “Core” and “Transitory” identities...

And “Important” identities.

There are many “Important” identities that are inherently “Transitory”...

Such as the identity of “Parent” that I explained before.

What it means to be a “Parent” changes throughout a child’s life.

What it means to be a parent to a newborn...

Is extremely different from being a parent to a teenager...

While it is a completely different and horribly painful experience to be a parent to a child who has passed away.

Though the “title” of “Parent” remains the same, and is “Important”...

It naturally changes over time and is “Transitory”.

An identity’s transitory state does not inherently have to do with its importance...

But its transitory state does inherently mean it is unstable.

That is the real problem that people need to understand...

Which of their identities are truly stable and Core...

And which are inherently transitory and unstable.

The truth is that most people...

Are desperately holding onto Transitory Identities...

Trying to keep them stable like sand in the wind...

Claiming those identities are simply how they were “born”...

But it is simply not true.

What most people need to understand...

Is that the majority of identities we have are transitory...

But they also only know a few of the many identities they have.

The fewer identities we truly know...

The more we latch onto them...

And the more devastating it becomes when any of them are transitory.

On the other hand...

The more identities we are aware of...

The easier it is to overcome the identities that change...

Because we have so many others we have access to...

Creating a more stable base.

Most of what we believe we are born as...

Is not actually true.

Most of what we believe we are born as...

Has to do with identities we have grasped onto since we can remember...

But which are transitory in nature.

If you truly want to gain the success you seek...

You have to stop holding yourself back with who you believe you were born as...

And become who you were meant to be.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Challenge Of Change

The Two Ways Most People Go Wrong

Written by a human, for humans, always.

Change.

It is something that most people struggle with...

While also being what we cannot escape.

One of the few inevitable aspects of life.

But when it comes to change...

There are usually two different paths that I see most people attempt to take...

And both paths...

Fail.

So what are the two paths?

The first is the desire to avoid change.

Doing everything in your power to keep things exactly the same.

Often it comes from a fear of what change means...

Such as the loss of health...

Loneliness...

Death...

Just as a few examples.

What happens though when we try to avoid the changes?

Well...

They still happen.

But when you mix the fact that change always does happen...

With the emotions involved in trying to avoid change...

Usually...

It actually makes the changes that occur worse.

If we are afraid of losing our health...

The stress makes our health become worse, faster.

If we are afraid of being alone...

Our desperation for companionship either deters people or attracts those who would abuse us.

If we are afraid of dying...

We stop living full lives as humans, which can cause us to perish faster.

In the end...

In trying to avoid change...

We only end up exactly where we feared most to be.

But what is the other challenge of change?

For many people...

It is the desire to change too much too quickly.

There are a few problems that arise for people who do this.

One is that in the desire to change so much so quickly...

We often break things that work and are actually beneficial.

Usually...

In the problems we experience in life...

As bad as certain things are...

Not everything is bad.

But when we move so quickly to change things...

We take for granted what is beneficial...

And we end up losing it in the process.

Some of those losses have been truly horrific throughout history.

The other thing that frequently happens when we try to change too quickly...

Is that in trying to make change faster...

It causes a rejection of the change.

We see this when people try to do drastic changes with their diet and exercise...

Where their bodies reject the desired changes and drive people back to their previous habits.

Too much change...

Too quickly...

And we have a tendency to sprint back to where we were before.

When we push to either extreme...

Too little or too much change...

We struggle.

So what are we to do?

We must first accept that change will happen.

However slow or fast...

Change is inevitable.

The sooner we come to terms with this...

The easier life can become.

Then...

We must seek the path where change occurs in the way that we hope...

But at the speed that our bodies and minds can accept...

While making sure that we do not remove what benefits us along the way.

Finding this zone of change is not always easy...

Yet, when we do manage to make our way into it...

We discover that change has many benefits...

Often, which are easier to obtain than we realized.

Change can be a powerful force in our lives...

Bringing with it vastly more than we could ever imagine.

To obtain it though...

We must find the right flow of change within our lives.

When we do...

We unlock a world of possibilities.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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The Call To Compromise Your Beliefs

An Interesting Dilemma Of Possibilities

Written by a human, for humans, always.

As we grow in our lives...

We all develop beliefs about what is right and wrong...

What we should be striving for...

And how we want to do things in the world.

At the same time...

We all have things that we have responsibility for in our lives.

Paying bills.

Taking care of our families.

Survival.

So...

What happens when we come face to face with a conflict between these aspects of our life?

Now, there may be some clear examples that exist where there appears to be a very strong path of righteousness or vileness...

But...

Sometimes it is not so clear-cut.

Let me give you an example...

I post my articles and content onto LinkedIn...

It’s not a perfect platform - rife with misinformation, outdated information, and AI slop - so if you’re reading this there, I suggest you follow my work through the newsletter version (link is in the comments for article visibility purposes)...

But it is one of the best platforms to reach executives, entrepreneurs, and decision-makers.

LinkedIn has many other features that are there...

Including job postings.

So, I constantly get job recommendations for various companies.

I’m a curious guy, so I go look at them from time to time to see what exists.

Within that...

I see many job opportunities for various “Leadership Coaching” opportunities.

Here’s the thing...

I have spent a large part of the past 6 years looking at the problems of the Leadership Development industry.

Usually, the challenges people experience are not specific organizations or skills that are being taught...

But rather the models that they are taught on, as well as a number of psychophysiological barriers that are present, which make all the information unusable to the client.

If you do not use the right models...

Or clear the psychophysiological barriers...

It really does not help the client at the end of the day...

Even if, technically, the information is good and valid.

Is it wrong to utilize the typical leadership development models?

No.

Again, the information is not bad information...

It can work...

Just most humans are not in the right place for it to work...

Which is why the leadership development industry completely fails 80% of the time with “limited” success the remainder.

I believe that we should try to meet people where they are...

Providing the help they need when they need it...

In such a way that they can actually utilize it at that time.

But it is not necessarily “wrong” to do it the way we have traditionally seen it done...

Because it can work.

Is it profitable for organizations to do it the way it has traditionally been done?

Absolutely.

Very profitable.

You can see exactly how profitable with how much is offered for these types of positions.

But here is the thing...

Say I were to take one of these jobs that I find...

In every single one that I read...

They all basically say the same thing.

The organization has a method that has worked to make them profitable...

They expect their employees to execute exactly how those methods are designed.

No derivatives.

No adaptations.

No adjustments.

Just execute.

Because that is how those organizations have become extremely profitable.

Now...

If you look at it...

There is a potential conflict of beliefs...

Where there is not a real right or wrong choice.

On the one hand...

You create a customized solution for each client you work with...

Based on where they are and what they specifically need...

With specialized knowledge of psychophysiology being required...

And as a business owner...

You own all of the responsibilities and costs.

On the other hand...

You use a tried and true profitable method...

Based on a repeatable formula...

That is good enough to get enough results to keep clients happy...

Even if the end results are only a fraction of what is possible for the client...

Plus...

As an employee...

You own none of the responsibilities and costs of the organization.

Which path would you choose if this is what was presented to you?

I have seen various similar versions of this play out for many different people in many different ways...

And the reason(s) that people choose one path or the other are usually good reasons.

The need to support a family might drive one person to choose the job route...

Even if they know there are better paths.

Others are willing to take the risks to build something more impactful...

Even if they know that it will be a tremendously difficult path...

The reward of designing something better and helping clients reach significantly better success is completely worth it to them.

There are many other reasons that people have for moving in one direction or another.

It is a really interesting dilemma that many people face...

Where we are called to compromise the beliefs we have.

How people decide which of the beliefs they have...

Especially when they are at odds with each other.

It is also fascinating to see...

How people make this decision when the stakes are higher...

Or how decisions begin to cascade where the morals become more and more questionable.

When does one choose one way or the other?

Where does the line get drawn?

Will that line move over time?

How far?

Is there a point where you go too far to turn around?

Can there be redemption?

Or...

Is it a jump into the darkness with no return?

Every single one of us will be called to compromise on our beliefs...

And sometimes it is not clear whether one should choose one path or another.

It becomes a dilemma of possibilities...

Where different paths drive us toward different futures.

It is worth considering what your beliefs are...

So when the time comes...

And you are called to compromise one of them...

You know how you want to proceed.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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1,300 Articles Written And Published In 1,300 Days

Understanding The Dedication And The Fruits Of The Labor

Written by a human, for humans, always.

This is the 1,300th article that I have written in the past 1,300 days.

One article.

Written.

Edited.

Published.

Each day.

Every weekend.

Every holiday.

On vacation.

Through every weather condition.

On the perfect days.

On the days where everything goes wrong.

No matter how I have felt.

I have written an article.

Even right at this moment, I have had a migraine that has made it difficult to do anything.

But I will not be stopped unless it is by the hand of God.

What drives a person to this type of dedication?

Or perhaps it is madness?

I like to believe it is the former.

But what keeps me going?

For me, it is a need to express what I am experiencing in my heart and my soul.

That can be a variety of things once it lands on the page.

From tips and insights into human psychophysiology...

Applications and their results in my life and the lives of my clients...

To why certain business decisions are poor in today’s world, and what the consequences of those decisions will be for those businesses (with uncanny accuracy)...

As well as the struggles I face and how I work my way through them...

With some ideas that I need to test out in the world to get feedback on.

At the heart of all of this, though...

I that I know that in writing everything and publishing it all...

I am doing a part of the work that I am called to do in my life.

It is not the entirety of it...

But it is an important part.

What I continue to find in my work and in the world...

Is that we as humans are so lost.

We push ourselves so far in the hopes of attaining something we need...

But constantly we are sprinting in directions that will never provide what we seek.

We look for everything in the wrong places...

And everything we do ends up ignoring the real problems that are setting us back.

In my writing...

I seek to help some people begin to understand...

And I hope that they figure it out.

However...

I do not want to create a version of the future through rose-tinted glasses...

A version that is exaggerated and not possible to obtain.

If you really want to overcome and get real answers to the problems you experience...

You must understand that the journey is not easy.

That you will be challenged and struggle throughout the path.

That is why I am not afraid to talk about my struggles...

And perhaps it is more important to discuss them.

For others to see...

That it is not easy...

Nor should it be easy.

We live in a world that is obsessed with trying to get the greatest results in the least amount of time and the most ease...

But what I always discover...

Is that these paths are actually more harmful than people ever realize...

And eventually you go so far down that path that you discover there is a trap that becomes nearly impossible to escape.

Indeed, it is a trap...

There is a reason that the prize was dangled in front of you...

So tempting to take...

It is because the trap is designed to be so beautiful and appetizing...

That you fail to see the trap.

Often...

Even though it may not appear so at first...

It is the more difficult path which provides the greatest bounties in life.

Writing every single day has been one example of this for me.

Have there been days I have struggled to come up with any ideas?

Absolutely.

Have there been days where I would rather do anything except write?

At this moment, I would rather try to wait out this migraine instead of write.

But what has been the fruit of my writing?

Just about everything amazing thing that has happened in my career, I can trace to writing these articles.

The Hall of Fame recognition in Leadership Coaching...

The over 100+ awards and nominations for different aspects of my work...

Being on a billboard in Times Square, New York...

Gaining sponsorships for my athletic pursuits...

The Honorary Doctorate Degree in Advanced Studies in Psychology...

The opportunity to become a United Nations Representative...

Becoming a Board-Certified Functional Medicine Practitioner...

Getting recognized as a top creator on multiple platforms...

And more...

All can be traced back to making the decision to write every day.

But...

As amazing as all of these things are...

I do not write for any of that.

I would still be writing even if I had not received any of those.

I believe that those all came into my life...

Because I did not write to attain them.

What I have found with so much of life...

Is that when you are truly dedicated to something...

So deep in your heart and soul that you feel you must do something about it...

Because you are called to do it...

It becomes noticed...

And when you keep your heart and soul pure in the calling...

Much is given.

When the hard days come, and you still move forward...

When you figure out how to continue making progress toward the calling...

When people see you beaten and battered but refuse to give up...

When you stay true when others have given up...

It is recognized.

Further...

When the mission does not become compromised as a result of that recognition...

When it continues to develop, and you prove your character...

Time and time again...

It becomes undeniable.

That is why I write every day...

And will continue to do so.

To forge myself in the intense heat and pressure of life...

To stay pure and true to the ultimate goal...

To listen to the calling...

That is what life is all about.

To Your Sageship,

Cody

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